Figure yourself
I’ve been trying to figure out what makes my acquaintances tick for a long time. What are their motivations? How do they rank their priorities? What drives them to take action? As much a great mind reader as I know I am (everbody thinks they can read others), the furthest I can go is to predict other's behaviour. I am unable to pin- point the dynamics that result in those behaviour.
Its like knowing your Jack russel will run up to welcome you home. But What is making it do that? If we can pin-point this, we can alter its behaviour to suit the situation.
As an over-simplified example, lets say you can breakdown the dynamics of the causes of your Jack's behaviour. It actually runs up to you because it feels that it is time to ask for a doggy biscuit everytime you come home. If you had an awful day and don't want to see a happy face (Jacks are always happy), what you can do is get your mama to start giving Jack biscuits. If the motivation dynamics of Jack are truely the biscuits (that is blatant selfish and insensitive), it will not bother you today! Alright, this is a gross example.
Have you ever been unable to see the rationale of certain actions of someone you know? If its someone you don't know you can accept that you have no idea of the reasoning to certain behaviour. But when its a close friend, I start scratching my head. (hey im not trying to gain an advantage or anything. just seeking win-win situations) Ultimately what is win-win to me is probably not win-win to everybody else as they in turn cannot see my rationale. *Read John Nash's Game Theory.
It is human nature to be selfish. But if you can see beyond selfishness, you have a lot to gain. Many (if not all) of us proclaim to look for win-win situations while deep down we want to be better off from an exchange. This comes from comparison. While a clerk may see $5 gained from teamwork as a huge bonus, if her colleague also gains $5, the clerk may not see $5 as a huge bonus after all. This causes reactive behaviour or feelings. Why can't everyone work together for that $5?
Astonishingly, all of us knows this question inside-out. We have the answers. But interestingly, implematation is like throwing away your aces in a game of poker. Everybody knows that you have the aces, yet because of the social rules that we live by, everyone else have to "accept" that you, in fact, do not hold the aces until you show them. (poker or no poker face)
Everyday we are playing a social game of who-blinks-first.
Manipulating the rules of the social game.
Utilising the whole parameters of the social playing ground.
Abusing the choice of interpretation.
Toying with the nature of perception.
Have you ever told an outcast that you did not invite her to your party as you thought she would be "busy"? But in fact, she was patiently awaiting your invitation! (you knew that! otherwise you would be the outcast!) She cannot question you as your actions are within accepted social rules ...
THAT is social game.
You've just tactically told the boss that you are late as your wallet was left in the cab and had chase it down 2 kilometres. Your boss cannot question you as you have a legitimate reason. A reason within social rules.
THAT is social game.
You've just cancelled on your friend as you are "not feeling well" but in fact you don't want them to see you on a bad hair day? Your friend have no basis to question you. You are the one in "pain", not her!
THAT is the MOTHER of all social games.
You wake up at 8am and have to cancel your golf session
THAT mean its about time you use an alarm clock.
I believe that many of us think that we can read someone (most probably your best friend) inside-out. But just when you trust and depend on your instincts the most, you fall flat on your face because of the loopholes in the implied rules of social dynamics. SPLAT! Shame on you for thinking that you can read someone. The mind is so complex that there is no way (at least in our day and age) anyone can figure anybody out. So are those behaviours real behaviours or the sophisticated use of implied social rules?
To make it interesting, (it is a game afterall) its times like these that I start to think "haizzz maybe our 8 characters clash!". (these covers only a small part of feng shui & metaphysics). Horoscopes and zodiacs are ways to see the decision making dynamics of others. If a friend is a Dog zodiac, you will know that her decisions will most probably be based on trust and loyalty. If she is also an Aquarius, you cal tell that, those values will almost certainly be applied on friends instead of romantic interests. Put it simply, an Aquarius Dog will agree with you because she puts value on your trust and loyalty as a friend. Maybe even for a hidden agenda. So if you want to convince her of something, work on these characteristics. Back to the 8 characters. . I have tabulated and analyzed quite a few 8 characters. It is by far to a certain degree the most accurate way you can predict characteristics of people by metaphysics. After going through 8 characters of friends, I can see why some stay close friends, some are hello-goodbye friends, some are party friends, etc. Its all in the elements. And by tallying past events with tabulated data, you can judge the accuracy of readings.
8 characters are so dynamic and sophisticated that no text reading alone can help you understand it enough to make your own analysis. I’m fortunate to have learned from a top Master in Singapore and I'm still learning from every analysis I attempt.
8 characters is a balancing act. As in feng shui, one seeks for balance, if your data shows that you are in need of water element, a friend with a surplus of water elements will become close with you. (these are very basic. you haven’t even had a sniff of the fun part) If fire element represents your wealth among other things, someone with a strong fire self element can be the business partner you are waiting for. So check out your elemental composition and find out what the elements mean to you.
Meanwhile, I have to think of a legitimate excuse for a social event... I have a good idea that I will be coughing my lungs out that day.
*Feng shui tip: 8 characters are best used to customize feng shui to an individual since feng shui and 8 characters used the same elemental units.
Its like knowing your Jack russel will run up to welcome you home. But What is making it do that? If we can pin-point this, we can alter its behaviour to suit the situation.
As an over-simplified example, lets say you can breakdown the dynamics of the causes of your Jack's behaviour. It actually runs up to you because it feels that it is time to ask for a doggy biscuit everytime you come home. If you had an awful day and don't want to see a happy face (Jacks are always happy), what you can do is get your mama to start giving Jack biscuits. If the motivation dynamics of Jack are truely the biscuits (that is blatant selfish and insensitive), it will not bother you today! Alright, this is a gross example.
Have you ever been unable to see the rationale of certain actions of someone you know? If its someone you don't know you can accept that you have no idea of the reasoning to certain behaviour. But when its a close friend, I start scratching my head. (hey im not trying to gain an advantage or anything. just seeking win-win situations) Ultimately what is win-win to me is probably not win-win to everybody else as they in turn cannot see my rationale. *Read John Nash's Game Theory.
It is human nature to be selfish. But if you can see beyond selfishness, you have a lot to gain. Many (if not all) of us proclaim to look for win-win situations while deep down we want to be better off from an exchange. This comes from comparison. While a clerk may see $5 gained from teamwork as a huge bonus, if her colleague also gains $5, the clerk may not see $5 as a huge bonus after all. This causes reactive behaviour or feelings. Why can't everyone work together for that $5?
Astonishingly, all of us knows this question inside-out. We have the answers. But interestingly, implematation is like throwing away your aces in a game of poker. Everybody knows that you have the aces, yet because of the social rules that we live by, everyone else have to "accept" that you, in fact, do not hold the aces until you show them. (poker or no poker face)
Everyday we are playing a social game of who-blinks-first.
Manipulating the rules of the social game.
Utilising the whole parameters of the social playing ground.
Abusing the choice of interpretation.
Toying with the nature of perception.
Have you ever told an outcast that you did not invite her to your party as you thought she would be "busy"? But in fact, she was patiently awaiting your invitation! (you knew that! otherwise you would be the outcast!) She cannot question you as your actions are within accepted social rules ...
THAT is social game.
You've just tactically told the boss that you are late as your wallet was left in the cab and had chase it down 2 kilometres. Your boss cannot question you as you have a legitimate reason. A reason within social rules.
THAT is social game.
You've just cancelled on your friend as you are "not feeling well" but in fact you don't want them to see you on a bad hair day? Your friend have no basis to question you. You are the one in "pain", not her!
THAT is the MOTHER of all social games.
You wake up at 8am and have to cancel your golf session
THAT mean its about time you use an alarm clock.
I believe that many of us think that we can read someone (most probably your best friend) inside-out. But just when you trust and depend on your instincts the most, you fall flat on your face because of the loopholes in the implied rules of social dynamics. SPLAT! Shame on you for thinking that you can read someone. The mind is so complex that there is no way (at least in our day and age) anyone can figure anybody out. So are those behaviours real behaviours or the sophisticated use of implied social rules?
To make it interesting, (it is a game afterall) its times like these that I start to think "haizzz maybe our 8 characters clash!". (these covers only a small part of feng shui & metaphysics). Horoscopes and zodiacs are ways to see the decision making dynamics of others. If a friend is a Dog zodiac, you will know that her decisions will most probably be based on trust and loyalty. If she is also an Aquarius, you cal tell that, those values will almost certainly be applied on friends instead of romantic interests. Put it simply, an Aquarius Dog will agree with you because she puts value on your trust and loyalty as a friend. Maybe even for a hidden agenda. So if you want to convince her of something, work on these characteristics. Back to the 8 characters. . I have tabulated and analyzed quite a few 8 characters. It is by far to a certain degree the most accurate way you can predict characteristics of people by metaphysics. After going through 8 characters of friends, I can see why some stay close friends, some are hello-goodbye friends, some are party friends, etc. Its all in the elements. And by tallying past events with tabulated data, you can judge the accuracy of readings.
8 characters are so dynamic and sophisticated that no text reading alone can help you understand it enough to make your own analysis. I’m fortunate to have learned from a top Master in Singapore and I'm still learning from every analysis I attempt.
8 characters is a balancing act. As in feng shui, one seeks for balance, if your data shows that you are in need of water element, a friend with a surplus of water elements will become close with you. (these are very basic. you haven’t even had a sniff of the fun part) If fire element represents your wealth among other things, someone with a strong fire self element can be the business partner you are waiting for. So check out your elemental composition and find out what the elements mean to you.
Meanwhile, I have to think of a legitimate excuse for a social event... I have a good idea that I will be coughing my lungs out that day.
*Feng shui tip: 8 characters are best used to customize feng shui to an individual since feng shui and 8 characters used the same elemental units.
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